The Moment Between Stimulus and Response
Jumping on social media has always been like walking into the worst bar you can imagine. Humans are screaming at each other, name-calling, complaining, attempting to convince followers of this week’s conspiracy theory, and just being detestable. As of late, it is only getting worse. The boldness that humans have developed online is now spilling over into real life. (“IRL” for the humans who know the lingo.)
Unconscious Questions
Embedded questions allow you to give a command within a question… even though it is not a question!
Unconscious Conversations
The art of communicating with precision and purpose, and the results appear magical.
Indirect elicitation is the skill of getting a desired response from your conversation partner without their conscious awareness.
Not Feeling "Okay" Will Change Your Life
You don’t have to feel “okay”! Not everyone has to receive a trophy. Not everyone is good at everything. There are humans better than you, and you are better than others. That’s OKAY!
Questions Are the Answer
Before you can effectively communicate with other humans, you must learn to effectively communicate with yourself.
7 Ways to Prepare for a Date
When you spend the time to do your research, you greatly increase your chances of making a new friend and turning a date into a relationship. While everyone else is worried about building a connection, you already know where they grew up, what university they graduated from, their favorite movie, what sort of music they are in to, and where they like to go on vacation.
It Takes a Pandemic
To be authentic means being ourselves, not a projection of how we think or have been told we should be. It’s about being congruent.
To Boldly Go Where Most Do Not
If my life were a Star Trek spin-off, the opening sequence would include “To Boldly Go Where Most Do Not”. (Boldly being the keyword in that line.)
Most of the social challenges humans have can be corrected by simply learning the art of being bold.
Not Everyone Is Going to Like You
You like them. You may have other reasons like “chemistry” or “common interests” or “great conversation”, but none of these reasons matter if you do not like them. Regardless of the way you build attraction and create rapport with someone, the glue that holds everything together, in the beginning, is “like”.
5 Ways to Get Women to Talk to You
5 proven ways to get women to approach you and strike up a conversation.
You Are Not Your Thoughts
I would like to propose that the majority of the time (if not all of the time) you are not in control of what you think next.
Get a Life
When you are doing the things that you like to do, you will meet people with similar interests, values, beliefs, and goals. For example, if you like attending events at the local science museum, then commit to attending these events. This takes the chance and guesswork out of meeting someone with whom you have something in common.
What Your Dad Never Taught You
I remember getting “the talk” from my grandfather when I was 16-years-old while driving to my piano lesson.
Being Yourself Is Not Your Best Idea
“Just be yourself, and everything will be fine.”
I cannot count the number of times that I have heard this piece of advice given by a well-meaning friend to someone apprehensive about communicating with another human being. (TIP: This is the worst advice you can give to someone.)
Let's "Not" Put up a Wall
When it comes to humans, I feel safe saying that most are looking for another human to romantically connect with. This article is for those who are in a committed relationship as well. When humans are in a relationship, many of them stop doing the things that initially attracted their partner. Dating your partner keeps the fun and passion in your relationship. This series will help you find your human or keep the human that you found years ago very happy.
Develop Rapport… The Right Way
You are about to learn one of the most important tools used to influence other people. Perhaps, the most important tool.
What Are Nested Loops, and Why Should I Care?
What you are about to learn is a critical skill that can make a world of difference if you take the time to master it.
It’s Not Them. It’s You. — Why People Are Not Replying to You.
When you do not receive a response from a client, potential client, or other business contacts; 94% of the time it is not their fault. You have not given them a strong enough reason to return your call or text or email or Facebook message or whatever form of communication you used.
Don’t Be a Chicken
Most people are more concerned with the notification that just popped up on their phone than with the human being sitting in front of them.
Best Foot Forward
Most people do not just put their best foot forward, but they lead you to believe that the other foot looks the same; when, in fact, they are struggling with secret challenges and life experiences.