What Are Nested Loops, and Why Should I Care?
What you are about to learn is a critical skill that can make a world of difference in your life if you take the time to master it.
I recently held a seminar in which I taught conversational hypnosis. Afterward, an attendee approached me and asked about "nested loops." He wanted to know if I could email him a guide on the subject.
Nested Loops are not the easiest to explain in writing, and it took me a few days to detail the process in an email. I didn't know how to make the concept clear and easy enough to allow humans to use it in the real world.
I hope that the following explanation is straightforward enough to allow you to learn this powerful method of unconscious installation and use it.
Unconscious installation is delivering suggestions and information to humans, of which they are unaware but carry out nevertheless.
The reason that I always viewed nested loops as challenging to teach is the careful planning that is needed as you begin to learn how to communicate in this way. Even in my seminars, attendees will understand the concept in class but will not take the time to master the skill when they get back home.
I urge you to put some time into this. The benefits you will have for the rest of your life will far outweigh the small amount of time you spend mastering nested loops now.
Your unconscious is compelled to make sense of all the information it receives. In other words, your unconscious needs to add meaning to what you are experiencing. Furthermore, your unconscious has a need for closure. Any incomplete idea or experience creates discord.
Creating a loop is very easy — it is nothing more than storytelling. A loop is any story you tell. For example, you tell a friend about your trip to Hawaii.
Are you a good storyteller?
Let's find out…
Do you capture your listener's attention? If you do not, the loop is closed right then and there. When you lose your listener's attention, their mind shuts down. You must capture their attention.
Can you "move" humans emotionally? In other words, do humans express emotion when you tell stories — like happiness, laughter, sadness, or excitement?
Can you tell a story with a beginning, middle, and end?
Nested loops are complex — they use multiple stories. Each story is interrupted part of the way through, and the next story begins. Nested loops connect emotional states. By connecting these emotional states, you can lead humans in the direction that you choose. Your goal is to direct your listener's thoughts to your desired destination.
If you have been to any of my seminars, you may or may not have been aware that I follow this pattern throughout our time together.
Before detailing how to implement nested loops, allow me to answer the most asked question humans have on the subject.
"How would I know when this is happening to me?"
Some humans can become mildly confused because it is difficult to keep track of the stories, and they do not know how some of the stories end... yet.
Let me explain the structure a little better...
Start Story #1 — During your story, evoke an emotional state you want your listener to feel.
Interrupt Story #1, and begin Story #2 — Evoke another emotional state you want your listener to feel.
Interrupt Story #2, and begin Story #3 — Evoke yet another emotional state you want your listener to feel.
Continue interrupting and beginning as many stories as you would like.
When you get to your last story, you tell the story entirely as you embed information and suggestions. Then, go on to the next step.
Complete your stories in reverse order. For example, if you have three stories that you started, you finish Story #3, then Story #2, and then Story #1.
Nearly every one of my interactions with humans uses several nested loops.
Note: Loops can be closed in the same conversation, the same hour, the same day, or weeks or months later.
Here is your homework...
Write down five pieces of information and suggestions you want to install in your listener. (Examples... buy now, make a change, you like this idea, etc...)
Write down five emotional states that you would like to elicit in your listener. (Examples... curiosity, intrigue, desire, etc...)
Write out five stories. These stories can be real-life happenings, or they can be stories that you create. Each of these stories should illustrate one of your five emotional states. For example, perhaps you tell a story of a time when you were very curious about something. As you tell the story, your goal is to get your listener to feel the curiosity that you are describing. (NOTE: If you have five emotional states, you will have five stories — a story for each emotional state that you want to elicit.)
In the middle of each story, you will jump to the next story. Determine where and how you will interrupt each story and how you will jump to the next story. (You may use phrases like "That reminds me of another time..." or "It is like the time I..." or "Remember when you were younger...".) In other words, you only tell half of each story before starting the next one.
When you get to your last story, you will tell this story in its entirety. This is the story in which you give the pieces of information and suggestions you want to install in your listener. Be very direct. For example, "After jumping out of that tree, I realized, Dave, something must change." (NOTE: In this example, I want to install "something must change." I purposely say the listener's name immediately before the suggestion "something must change" so that Dave's unconscious knows that I am talking to him.) Use this format in this last story for each piece of information and suggestions you have to install. Then, complete this last story.
Proceed to complete all of the remaining stories IN REVERSE ORDER.
Your listener will tend to develop amnesia for the last story (the middle story of the loop process). However, their unconscious mind will still carry the pieces of information and suggestions.
Practice, practice, practice.
This is one of the most powerful methods of covertly installing ideas, information, suggestions, et cetera into the unconscious minds of others.
This skill is a must to master if you truly want to become an expert communicator and leader.
If you are still a bit confused, consider attending one of my seminars. You will truly leave a different person.
