Boundaries
A boundary is knowing your personal limits, communicating them to other humans, and standing firm when someone violates them.
Let’s Talk About Failure
Failure is a paradox. The more you fail, the more successful you tend to be — unless you give up.
Do You Have Texting Anxiety?
Humans have been conditioned to expect immediate replies to the messages they send. Many humans become anxious when they don't receive a response within a few minutes and begin to spiral down a texting hole by analyzing the exchange.
How to Capture a Human’s Imagination
Create extraordinary emotional states in others, and you'll get even more in return.
Let's Bake a Cake
Just like you use a recipe for baking a cake, you unconsciously use recipes for everything you do. These recipes are called strategies.
The Table Read Interview
I was interviewed by JJ Barnes (@JudieannRose on Twitter) for The Table Read (@the_table_read on Twitter, an independent online entertainment and creativity magazine based in the United Kingdom.
Don’t Throw Snakes
You must mind the words coming out of your mouth because what you say and how you say it affects other humans. So think about the probable outcome of what you're about to say before letting it out. It's not as difficult as it may sound.
Amygdala Hijacking
When your amygdala disables your prefrontal cortex, that's an amygdala hijacking. Your amygdala controls your brain and actions, taking away your ability to make sound decisions. Also known as losing it.
The Secret of “The Secret”
The authors of The Secret stopped after the first half of the equation. Unfortunately, this is a misleading marketing strategy designed to make the authors wealthy by keeping the consumers needing the second half — the essential half. In other words, it's designed to get you to buy subsequent books, films, and workshops.
The Dunning–Kruger Effect
The Dunning-Kruger effect is in operation when humans with minimal skill, limited knowledge, or inadequate competence grossly overestimate their ability.
Occam’s Razor
“When faced with two competing theories, the simpler explanation is usually correct.” In other words, the explanation that requires the fewest number of assumptions is typically correct.
Confirmation Bias
Confirmation bias is the tendency for humans to interpret new evidence as confirmation of one's existing beliefs or theories.
The Barnum Effect
The Barnum Effect is in play when humans believe that personality descriptions apply specifically to them.
Confabulation
Confabulation is a memory error. It happens when there are gaps in a human's memory, and those gaps are filled with manufactured, misinterpreted, and distorted information.
The Magic of the Last 3 Words
I use this language hack in almost every one of my conversations. I call it The Last 3 Words — although the number of words can vary.
A Message to Garcia
I was introduced to this story while a senior in high school. It sat in a cardboard box for many years after. Then, in my 30s, I found it during a move and understood A Message to Garcia differently this time around.
How to Hack Your Mind’s Algorithm
What you focus on, you tend to get more of. But, unfortunately, most humans focus on what could go wrong, what they can't do, and how they're not good enough. Even I sometimes fall into this trap.
Expert Tips To Make Humans Like You
I stopped watching because I felt that I couldn't watch any longer—I didn't like the human who was speaking.
Connections and Links
When you learn how to direct the thoughts of others, the more effective you will be with your communication.