Give Them “The Look”

Have you ever gotten “the look” from someone... say a parent... and you knew that they meant business? You felt that certain feeling rush through your body, and you did not really have control over it.

You could chalk that feeling up to a simple “anchor”, but I think it is much more than that; and it is something that you can learn to use yourself with anyone at any time.

Throwing Emotion is a unique skill to instantly induce a specific emotional state in your conversation partner... no matter if your conversation partner is a stranger or your best friend.

The steps are easy, but they must be carried out with complete and utter confidence in your ability.

Step 1

You go first!

You must completely experience the emotion that you want your conversation partner to feel. Without personal power, this can be a scary thing for some people.

To do this, think about a time when you felt the particular emotion. See what you saw at the time, hear what you heard, and really feel the feeling.

Step 2

At the most intense point of your emotional state, turn to your conversation partner, stare directly INTO their eyes, and imagine that you are transferring that state to them.

When you look into their eyes, you must focus your stare at a point approximately two inches behind the surface of their eyes… imagine you are looking into their soul and the deepest recesses of their mind. Think of it as almost looking through them.

But here is the real trick, and the coolest part — do not express any of your internal feelings externally. In other words, do not let your facial expression or body language give your feelings and intention away.

Continue your “stare” until you observe that your conversation partner is experiencing the emotion that you would like them to experience. This is usually obvious by their body language, breathing rate, how they speak, et cetera.

The real beauty of this technique is that your conversation partner will feel the shift toward the target emotion without a clue that it is coming from YOU.

This is really just the same as when one individual can get a whole group of people to freak out simply by getting very agitated and upset about something. The negative feelings simply transfer to others. In that kind of situation, the origin of the feeling is obvious.

With “the look”, you are being covert about inducing the emotion.

Step 3

As soon as your conversation partner is experiencing the intended emotion, you may stay in the same emotion as they are and have a great time; or you can instantly change your emotional state to accomplish your specific goal.

For example, perhaps you transferred a wanton buying state to your conversation partner. As soon as your conversation partner takes on the state, you can then instantly switch to a persuasive state to finish your sales pitch.

Want another example?... Let’s say you are approached while in a bar by a patron simply wanting to cause problems. You can transfer an intense sense of fear and intimidation to this person. As soon as you notice that your conversation partner has taken on the fear and intimidation, instantly put yourself into a very confident state. You can now handle the situation.

This may seem a little far-fetched, but is actually quite easy once you know the trick and practice beforehand.

To quickly change states, you will utilize anchoring. You already know how to do this if you have kept up on my articles.

Sound way out there for you? Practice and use this technique for a week. You will find that it is very effective.